By Pascal Bruckner
The sexual revolution is justly celebrated for the freedoms it brought--birth keep watch over, the decriminalization of abortion, the liberalization of divorce, larger equality among the sexes, women's titanic access into the team, and extra tolerance of homosexuality. yet as Pascal Bruckner, certainly one of France's best writers, argues during this vigorous and provocative mirrored image at the contradictions of recent love, our new freedoms have additionally introduced new burdens and rules--without, despite the fact that, wiping out the previous ideas, feelings, wants, and preparations: the couple, marriage, jealousy, the call for for constancy, the warfare among fidelity and inconstancy. it's no ask yourself that love, intercourse, and relationships this present day are so complicated, so tricky, and so paradoxical.
Drawing on historical past, politics, psychology, literature, popular culture, and present occasions, this book--a most sensible vendor in France--exposes and dissects those paradoxes. together with his normal brilliance and wit, Bruckner strains the roots of sexual liberation again to the Enlightenment so that it will clarify love's ideally suited paradox, epitomized via the Sixties oxymoron of "free love": the stress among freedom, which separates, and love, which attaches. Ashamed that our intercourse lives fail to reside as much as such liberated beliefs, we've traded neuroses of repression for neuroses of inadequacy, and we overcompensate: "Our mom and dad lied approximately their morality," Bruckner writes, yet "we lie approximately our immorality."
Mixing irony and optimism, Bruckner argues that, by way of love, we should always part neither with the revolutionaries nor the reactionaries. fairly, taking love and ourselves as we're, we must always detect that love makes no development and that its messiness, surprises, and paradoxes should not in basic terms the resources of its pain--but additionally of its excitement and glory.